There are so many things that come to mind, I want my family to be very successful, I want my son to have a better life, I want my loved ones to get to know God…
But I think…I would say – God help me get to know myself and let me be the best person I can be.
Why? Why is my request so self-centered?
In life we spend so much time thinking about people we love and care about – we want the best for them. We spend time taking care of everyone else that we forget about ourselves and often times we end up worn out and failing. Thats because our strength is limited. There is only so much we can do to change others.
But the most tragic consequence of this is that we lose ourselves.
Maybe 2015 was a bad year for you. Maybe you asking yourself – my God I did everything right- I was a good wife/ husband but my spouse still left me, I was a hardworking employee but my boss fired me anyway, I was a good mother but my children have no respect for me … or god I tried to be good to everyone but still they rejected me.
If so, then what happened to you is not fair, but you must not let that define you. Maybe 2016 is the new bagging you have been waiting for. Make a decision to look inside you and find yourself and your voice again.
Just because someone didn’t like me, doesn’t meant I don’t have to like me. Just because someone left me, doesn’t mean I am going to be absent minded – I am still here and I will love myself. I will treat myself as I deserve to be treated, I will laugh and I am going to love others better and harder but it begins with me.
I know it’s in our nature to always want to help and please others that we forget ourselves and still feel like it’s not enough.
You feel unappreciated, sad, angry, inadequate and bitter.
Then you begin to act out what you feel inside, you begging to say bitter things to yourself and others, you self-confidence starts to decrease because that’s how you feel on the inside.
Whatever happens outside is always the reflection of what you feel inside.
Understand that everyone has problems, but don’t let these problems decide your life for you. Don’t let the bad circumstances decide the rest of your life. If you are looking for answers in 2016, look deep inside you.
You may think- my kids and my family has no respect for me but I will continue raising them with love, or my husband has not been very nice lately but I am going to continue honoring him.
Guard your heart above all else, for it determines the course of your life. Proverbs 4:23
Don’t let your circumstances make you bitter. Look inside you and find your inner strength. No matter how people treat me– I choose me – I am happy, I am kind, gracious and I am going to choose who I am every single day.
People can’t always give us what we need and the appreciation we deserve. But the best thing is to focus on yourself and the condition of your own heart. Choose god’s approval and yours – choose god’s appreciation and yours.
The best person you need to change in 2016, the person you need to invest in is yourself and when you are content and happy regardless of your circumstances and surroundings – you will be in a better position to affect those around you effectively.
Bad things are always going to happen. People are always going to hurt you – you can’t change that. But you can change the way those things affect you.
You can decide to be a better you in 2016.
Henry ford said: ‘the man who thinks he can and the man who thinks he can’t are both right.