Identity Crisis – When I look Into The Mirror!

A few months ago, I was invited by a television station to do an interview about identity crisis. The crisis however had nothing to do with whether or not we have lost our identity in Christ, but it was about whether or not weaves are a sign that woman have an identity crisis.
To set the record straight, I have an undeniable love for weaves. For me, they are like shoes. I can alternate from weaves to braids… I prefer my Indian or Brazilian weaves. However, weaves do not define who I am. 
Weaves on a bigger scale are a small issue. In honest truth, we have many people who truly have identity issues.
Some people do define themselves by their weaves; or by what car they drive, their friends, the position they hold at work, the label of their clothing, fame, the person they’re dating or married to – it’s about status.
If we don’t know who we really are, then how can we not have an identity crisis? This is not a matter of race or weaves … but is what the Bible speaks about in James 1: 23-25.

Anyone who listens to the word but does not do what it says is like someone who looks at his face in a mirror and, after looking at himself, goes away and immediately forgets what he looks like. But whoever looks intently into the perfect law that gives freedom, and continues in it—not forgetting what they have heard, but doing it—they will be blessed in what they do.
This passage wasn’t written for people who simply do not know the Bible or God himself. But it is for people who are clearly struggling with their identity. Though we study the Word of God which tells us and reminds us who we are in Christ, and we go to church and we are told who we are in Christ by our pastors or by preachers on TBN, but we continue to act as people who don’t know who they are.
Our true identity is more than just what we wear or what we look like. It is what the Word of God says we are; and if we truly believe it, it becomes what we do.
Our actions reveal who we truly are inside. I am not ignorant of the fact that people can pretend to be someone they are not – that is also an identity crisis.
If you believe that you are beautiful, you act like it. If you believe you are saved, you act like it, and if you believe you are loved, you act like it. We believe that we have Christ’s Spirit in us, yet we don’t act like it. We learn everyday of how much God loves us, but we can’t live like loved people, we don’t treat ourselves as forgiven people and we don’t live our lives as righteous people – we don’t know who we are.
We may look in the mirror often, but because we believe what society tells us about what we’re suppose to be, we are quick forget who we truly are.
We cannot know who we are, if we don’t know who our Father is. If we do not know where our DNA comes from. We can claim that God is our Father and that He loves us unconditionally, but if we don’t believe it then we still have an identity issue.
What we do is just an extension of what we believe about ourselves. The real identity issue is deeper than whether we like to wear weaves, or get implants, or have Botox, etc.
The problem is way deeper than that – we have an identity crisis because we forget who we are in Christ and what He has done for us.
We cannot let our clothes, weaves, money, marital status or fame define us. We need to cling to our true identity, which is in Christ. We need to read (reflect) on the Word (mirror) and to never forget who it says we are.
Yes, we need to remind ourselves often what our Father thinks and says about us.   But we have to do more than that…we have to believe it; and if we do believe it, then we will act like it. Then, we will really know and live out our true identity.
Stay blessed
Nontobeko Cox

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